“I like that idea, but we need to weigh the pros and cons.”
If my upper leadership responds with this, I automatically feel that my input is inadequate. That my solution was the wrong one. That there are too many flaws to my idea.
“I like that idea, and we need to weigh the pros and cons.”
If my upper leadership responds with this, I have hope. I feel that I contributed, that my opinion is valued, that there was something to what I said.
It's no surprise to us that positivity and positive reinforcement is important. In the workplace, in relationships, in your life.
And in the workplace, not every single idea is going to be a good one. Not every single idea is going to move forward.
Because that would be insane.
Using "but" automatically discards the prior sentiment.
However, there are simple ways to remain positive, take in all ideas, and keep the energy flowing.
One of those, is replacing your "buts" with "ands."
Try it, practice it, form a habit of it, reap the benefits of it.
We can't always be 100 percent positive... and there's no sense in not trying.